"It's not your loss," they often say. "It's their loss."
Just another way to delude yourself that things are actually going smoothly.
It's always been a weird thing to say. Something just ended, and you didn't lose anything? It's even weirder when the end arrives suddenly and you're the one at the receiving end. In the process you have a keener sense of what you had, and what you can no longer have, and what you might be able to get again, and what you ultimately can no longer have. All of that, bouncing in your head.
"It's not your loss."
Really, now?
I mean, you don't really know, do you? Even if they spill their heart and their soul and their guts at you, you will never really grasp it, for you've never really lived it. Best you can do is connect it to something that you have experienced. That's the closest you can do. Your build-up is different, and that makes things different, much different.
But I suppose they say it so you don't dwell on the hurt, so you can look forward, move forward. "Stack the odds in your favor" is something I have been saying to friends a lot these past few months. Make sure everything works out for you, as much as possible. Some will end up resorting to hurting others to do that. But, you know. Another way to delude yourself. To tell you that you are in control, even way down the line.
Or maybe you have to tell yourself that you only did what you had to do, that everything will work out fine in the end. "It's all good." Another way to delude yourself. I know. No matter how much you manifest it, if only to relieve yourself of the guilt, if only to further stack the odds in your favor, it never is all good.
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